Welcome back! Okay, whew, part 2.
We left off in the middle of the Thar Desert in northwestern India where camels rule the land and school children stare at white people. Our contentedness with the trip at this point should have been felt with a "too-good-to-be-true" suspicion but we were far too naive to consider what we were about to experience: the Indian railway system.
We needed to head north to a town called Rishikesh where people had raved to us about the tranquility that can be physically and mentally obtained while there. Seeing as the town we were currently inhabiting was over 600km away from this oasis, we were told that the most practical form of transportation to use to reach our destination would be a train. Thinking we could increase our Harry Potter-ness, we originally loved this idea. Wrong again.
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| Extreme comfort |
What we were confronted with was a 16 hour ride, with stops every 30 minutes, on a train packed with passengers, "beds" (benches, pretty much) stacked three deep, no heat (and cracked windows), and
one, nauseatingly disgusting bathroom for the entire car. As the unprepared Westerners we are, we neglected to bring any warm clothing that was appropriate for such an evening, and spent Christmas Eve covering our feet with extra tank tops, wearing a pair of pants as a scarf, using a travel towel as a blanket, and glaring at all the other passengers who brought sheets, blankets, gloves, scarves, and other necessary gear to make it through the night. I'll never really know just how cold it got in that train but considering we had just come from always-90-degree Vietnam, we were certain the temperature was below freezing (obviously, it couldn't have been
that cold, but to make this sound more dramatic, you should just visualize me shaking in a dark, creaky train with icicles forming around my nostrils where snot from my chest cold was trying to escape my body.)
But there was a moment on this train that quite literally left me in complete shock. It wasn't the bathroom that I finally succumbed to after 12 hours of holding-in the need to relieve myself (here's another dramatic image; I wrapped a scarf around my mouth and nose, put my hood on, and zipped my jacket all the way but none of this was enough to hold back my intense gag reflexes... yeah, it was
that bad in there). And it wasn't the volume at which Indian men spoke during the wee hours of the night. It was a moment of true and genuine kindness from a complete stranger. As the three of us were lying there, trying to take our minds off the cold, Alex noticed a man on the train staring at him for an extended and uncomfortable period of time. He began to think through the number of things this man could be fixated on him for, a potential robbery being the most lingering concern. But after about twenty minutes of staring, the man stood up and offered Alex his extra blanket.
Honest to goodness that is exactly what happened. Do you need a second? If the tears that froze to my face in that moment weren't enough to express my complete amazement at this act of kindness, the ones that are freely flowing down my cheeks now are forever engraining this image in my mind.
Alex, Kristi and I were pretty speechless. This man's gesture was able to start a small chain reaction that led Alex to give me his jacket since I was the least prepared of the group with only a rain jacket and long sleeved shirt for protection. It's funny how sometimes a travelers instinct is to think the worst of people around you, when really they can simply be working up the courage to approach you. You know, writing this all out has somehow made me forget just how awful we felt at the end of that train ride. Thanks for that :)
When we finally reached Rishikesh, it was Christmas morning. We decided that we again deserved an evening of lying in a warm bed and watching movies after having the hottest shower we could find. After having taken an interesting "auto-rickshaw" from the bus station into town, we stumbled upon a modest looking hotel called, "Hotel Dev Palace." We were shown a room with a hot shower, delicious looking beds, and a TV, for about $20 a night (divided by three people, mind you). We told the reception we would just be staying for one evening, fed ourselves, cleaned up, and cuddled into our warm beds.
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| happy :) |
Our night of lethargy was interrupted, however, when one of the hotel employees knocked on our door to invite us to the restaurant for some "Christmas cake." Intrigued, we somehow rolled ourselves out of bed to be greeted by the entire hotel staff, all celebrating around a tiny, tropical-looking cake with the words "Merry Christmas" written on plastic and shaded by a purple drink umbrella. They cut a slice of cake for all of us, made us tea, gave us candy, and asked to take 100 different pictures with us using the neon-green Christmas trees and creepy plastic Santa masks as props. My favorite memory was when the original worker who came to get us at our room was wearing a Santa mask and hat while shouting, "Ha Ha Ha!
(instead of Ho Ho Ho) Celebrationnnnnnnnns!" over and over again.
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| Some of the hotel staff. Yes, that woman really is that little. |
And you know what? None of them celebrated Christmas. And you know what else? We were the only guests in the hotel that night. It was all for us. It was just another gesture of pure kindness that welcomed strangers as if they were family. After feeling like this was "the year without Christmas," we found ourselves surrounded by goodness that could never be matched.
We ended up staying 6 nights at the hotel instead :)
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| This is what we woke up to for a glorious week |
Rishikesh is known for being the yoga capital of the country and if you know me well, you know yoga and I are not very good friends. I did go to three classes though, which is about three times as many as I normally do in a typical week. We learned some hilarious breathing techniques, new abnormal stretches, and I learned quickly I couldn't make eye contact with Kristi throughout the entire class if I wanted to keep myself from busting a gut. The majority of our time was spent walking around the traffic-free streets, taking pictures of monkeys, and eating loads of delicious vegetarian food. Rishikesh is considered a "holy city" which means they do not serve alcohol or meat dishes throughout the entire city. Food-wise, I had finally found heaven and basked in the glory of endless pastas, soups, and Indian cuisine that allowed me to hang out with my animals friends instead of wondering if people around me were eating them.


Leaving Rishikesh was one of the hardest things we had to do that vacation, just behind holding-in urine for 12 hours. Our bus ride to New Delhi would have been uneventful had it not been for the McDonald's we stopped at for a potty break about halfway through the trip. Some of you may know how I feel about McDonald's but I figured their bathrooms may have been cleaner than the train's so I decided to take a look inside. Since cows are sacred in India, there were no beef burgers on the menu whatsoever. But guess what they had? VEGGIE BURGERS! I have been saying this for years that Mickey D's should add some crappy veggie burger to make people think they were making healthier choices. The people in India finally listened to me and I was so flattered that they made this burger from my imagination that I bought one. All I'll say about it is that is wasn't gross and it had visual chunks of vegetables in it. I'll probably never eat there again, seeing as this was my first visit in close to 10 years, but it certainly was an experience.
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| mi amiguita Krunchy |
Delhi would have been a completely forgettable and uneventful part of the trip if it hadn't been for the amazing Akanksha. Akanksha, or "Krunchy" as I call her, came into my life in the most interesting of ways. She is from Australia but her parents grew up in India. When she was in high school, she studied abroad in Chile where she met my ever-amazing roommate from Guatemala, Aubrey. Later, when Krunchy was in medical school, she did a rotation in Guatemala to learn about serving in undeveloped areas of the world. It was there that I met Krunchy as she spent a few days visiting us in the city. It just so happened that this Christmas, Krunchy and I were in Delhi at the same time but for literally only one day. She and her father picked us up at our hotel and drove us around the city. We went to India Gate where earlier that week the streets had been filled with protestors rioting about how the government handled issues of rape (if you didn't hear about the gang rape in Delhi on December 16th, you should really read about it. Pretty horrific stuff). We drove around the parliament buildings and discovered how much cleaner that side of town was. We visited Krunchy's favorite city monument and at a favorite meal of her father's called "dosa." In all, our day in Delhi was far more than we ever could have imagined, considering our only other plan for that day had been to stay in our beds to avoid the cold before catching our flight to Mumbai. The hospitality and information Akanksha and her dad gave us was beyond incredible and I cannot wait to be able to return the favor someday in either Vietnam or the US. Love you, Krunchy!
Alright, its finally time to discuss the last portion of our trip and one that left me with some of the heaviest of hearts. Mumbai, or Bombay as the locals call it, was debatably just as large as New Delhi but in a completely different world. This city was far more modern and seemingly more financially sound than Delhi. The weather was warmer, there were more landmarks, and the people seemed more laid back. It was also somehow quieter even though their were loads more tourists around.
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| Taking a break from being in everyone else's pictures to take our own :) |
And there was also a lot more poverty. Hundreds of vendors trying their hardest to get you to buy their products. Children waiting in line with tourists at fast food restaurants, hoping they'll buy them an extra ice cream cone. Disabled members of society asking for spare change from the same spot all day. Families living on the roof of bus stations. Children begging for food at 11pm on a 4 lane highway.
At one point, as my eyes met a 5-year-old boy's who gestured his hands to his mouth, showing us the urgency in which he needed food, I felt angry. Not only at the Indian government for not providing shelter for all 1.2 billion of its citizens (impossible, right?), but at the American people who constantly complain about their tax dollars. You know where your tax dollars go? Public schools so our children can be educated. Homeless shelters so our children can be protected. Food banks so our children can be nourished. Never in America would you see a 5-year-old roaming the streets alone at almost midnight asking out for help. My anger with the American people, however, did not take over the gratitude I felt for having grown up there. I am proud that my country takes care of all its members. Even if it means part of my pay check gets taken away each month, I know that in America I am not confronted with the helpless feeling I had that night I looked into a child's eyes and saw true desperation.
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Editors note: I was reminded by a wise reader that there are millions of homeless people in the U.S. This cannot be forgotten or denied. Being homeless anywhere is a life I wouldn't wish upon anyone. But at least in America, there is somewhere for people to turn-- schools, churches, shelters, food banks, substance-abuse counseling centers, temporary homes, job search assistance, foster homes... it seems the aid is endless and aiming at fixing the problems with the purest of intentions. For this I am very proud.
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| This picture isn't doing the immense size of this place justice. |
We spent some time seeing the typical sites like the Gateway of India, Elephanta Island (that had no elephants, sadly), and the natural history museum, but the most moving experience was when we traveled to Mumbai's outdoor laundry facilities. It was here that I learned 5,000 men work everyday to clean the city's clothing. They wash hospital linens, hotel sheets, and clothes for most of the Mumbai's inhabitants. Families rented out concrete cubicles from the government and received thousands of pounds of laundry each day. They washed about 90% of it by hand, the other 10% being boiled for sanitation purposes or cleaned in a teeny-tiny washing machine. After watching from afar, a gentleman who worked there invited us inside for a tour. Turns out, those 5,000 men actually
live there with their families cramped into a tiny one-room home just behind the individual cubicles. Only men are allowed to work here as the extreme heat is apparently too much for women or children to handle. All the clothing are labeled and color-coded, washed, dried and returned in 24 hours time. The kids who lived here didn't seem to be attending school as we watched one little boy running around hysterically as he tried to fly his "kite" made from a plastic bag tied to a string. This place was by far the most shocking I have seen on any of my travels. Back-breaking labor being performed by thousands of people all at once-- and this happens every single day of the year.
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| day in and day out |
If you couldn't tell, at this point in the trip I was starting to become incredibly jaded. What was I even doing there? Snapping some pictures, over-eating, shopping. I kept counting all the amazing things I had seen and heard and learned. India gave me this, taught me that...
...but what did I do for India?
I'm still not sure. One could argue I stimulated the economy with my consumerism and increased the Vitamin C levels of that 5-year-old I gave my orange to. Perhaps I taught a few English words to some merchants who were practicing what they knew with me. But really, what did I
do for India?
Nothing.
Nothing at all. Yeah, sure, I suppose everyone needs a vacation now and then, but does that mean I can just turn off my compassion? Does it mean I can just forget about the fact that others are suffering while I'm disappointed that this restaurant isn't serving garlic naan before 7pm? Can I expect
anything of a place for which I provided
nothing?
Though I can't go back and change what I didn't do, I can go forth with a newfound attitude about how I travel. I thought I was opening my mind, broadening my horizons, and adding to my knowledge by seeing the world. And though this may all be true, there are just too many things about
me in that sentence and not enough about
others. My new goal for 2013 is increased outreach. I want to reach further, dig deeper, and love more. I want to help people see just how meaningful their life is.
I'll keep you updated on how I plan on doing all these things but in the meantime, I hope this entry has helped you ask yourself this same question: what I am doing for others? Maybe its in your job description in your work of service. Maybe you are raising children to become responsible citizens of the world. Perhaps you make donations to organizations you believe in. Whatever it is, I thank you first. And now, I challenge you to do more.
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| My new friend Nashla. She made that necklace by hand. An older version of me would have tried to talk her down in price, but after hearing her story, feeling her heart and genuine interest in others, and seeing that smile, I paid her quadruple. |